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Why the hate for Valentine’s Day?


I am sick to death of whiners bitching about Valentine’s Day. Unhappy that you’re single. Get off your couch and go meet someone. Or lower your ridiculous standards. You’re not rich or great-looking yourself, so what makes you think you deserve both?

Annoyed that you’re expected to provide gifts or a card or a dinner out? Stop being a stingy bastard. You’re the kind of guy -and you stingy fuckers are always guys- who grudgingly buys last minute birthday gifts at 7-11. If you’re not with a woman you WANT to shower with gifts, then cut her loose and go find one who makes you wish you could take her to Paris or buy her a first-edition of her favorite book.

It’s not about the money, either. Don’t even flatter yourself with that gold-digger nonsense. There’s a very good possibility your girlfriend or wife out-earns you. If that makes your balls shrivel up then go date the 7-11 clerk that sold you that shitty birthday gift.

And you there with your “it’s a Hallmark holiday. It’s so commercial” lament. Give it up. You with your iPhone and your TV shows that you just have to see, and your microbrews and trips to Costa Rica, you think you’re so deep? It’s okay to celebrate getting shit faced or watching sports or observing explosions in the sky, but celebrating romantic love is shallow?

All you Valentine haters need to get over yourselves. Bitching about it just shows the world you’re lovelorn, stingy, unhappy or a hypocrite. Instead, why don’t you STFU for a couple more days? It’s almost time to buy goofy green shit and pretend you’re Irish as an excuse to drink yourself into a stupor.

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29 thoughts on “Why the hate for Valentine’s Day?

  1. I have to disagree with you on this one Trixie, though I’m not going to be nearly inflammatory as dickwad about 1/2 way up.

    As someone who’s 20, has gone on a few dates (mostly set up by friends), yet remained depressingly single despite my hardest work, I wanna stand up and at least defend the singles.

    I used to try, quite a bit. I got discouraged after getting ridiculed over and over again, not only by the chicks that I tried with, but also by the jackasses in my class.

    Because of this, I have no real experience with a relationship. I’d consider myself a nice and (very) caring guy.

    And I’m a month away from being able to legally drink my sorrows away.

    TLDR: Sorry trix

    • Wow, fucking iPhone, posting before I was ready. Anyways, to finish:

      Sorry Trixie, I gotta disagree with you. Sometimes getting back up on the horse after falling off just hurts too much, and that’s why I have begun equating bitterness with Valentine’s day. I have a feeling that I’m prolly not alone in my experiences either.

  2. This is the first year in as long as I can remember that am not bitter about Valentine’s Day. I think it’s because I’m finally out of the “what is this that we’re doing”, “to lazy to change it” failure of a fake relationship that I’ve been to afraid to change.

    Happy Valentine’s Day!

  3. Yes! Thank you! Someone needed to say that.

  4. I totally agree!! But for myself, I only dislike Valentine’s Day because I think it’s silly that we need to have a day set aside to let our loved ones know that we love them. (That should of course be every day!) I understand that it’s fun to give valentines and decorate everything in pink and red, but idk. I’ve been with someone on Valentine’s Day for the past 7 years (this will be mine and my husband’s third Valentines together, our first as a married couple), so it’s nothing to do with the fact that I’m bitter.

    But I do dislike the people who prance around and ruin the day for everyone else. If a couple is enjoying Valentine’s Day, leave them be. I don’t hate on people for celebrating. I just don’t celebrate, myself.

  5. Quite funny: once i bought my wife (then girlfriend) a paper shredder for valentines day. Everyone thought i was insane. Reality: She was happy i bought it for her–i knew exactly what she wanted and for the money i made at the time it was perfect.

    It isn’t about the money, its about the thought put into it.

  6. Reighvin on said:

    Just to clear my name here, I sent my wife a V-Day card from Kuwait, and had flowers delivered to her yesterday at work. And I have stuff delivered to her at work sometimes, just because. So, this vent isn’t about me. At least, I hope it isn’t.

    • Of course it’s not about you. It’s about the haters, like my dad, who think people are stupid for participating and resent being marketed to and who would love to ruin it for everyone else. You’re awesome.

  7. I’m not big on Valentine’s Day. I just think it’s a complete waste of money. Buying a $5 piece of paper/V-day card..why? I’m going to throw it away. I also don’t like flowers for the same reason. I dunno, maybe it’s just me. But, I feel like at least get me something awesome instead of wasting money on those two things.

  8. Thanks for saying it! I love Valentine’s. The people who complain are the same folks who will give an adolescent rant on just about anything. Poor things are depriving themselves of lovin’ and chocolate. That’s just stupid.

  9. The Law on said:

    And the only reason you’re saying this is because you’re with someone and a woman.

    You biased naggy whiny cunt.
    Seriously. You’re just pissy because some people don’t want to spend their paycheck on spending money on a woman when they do it every day of the year.

    There shouldn’t be a day of the year telling me when to show affection for someone. Fuck that shit.
    I’m not religious, valentines day started out based on christian beliefs. Much like christmas and what have you. There’s zero purpose of me celebrating something that’s formed on the basis of something I don’t believe in.

    So lets gather this together shall we.
    1. You’re a woman.
    2. You’re biased as fuck.
    3. Based on religious beliefs.
    4. A government mandated day for me to show affection..wtf is that?
    5. Your rant has just as many mistakes/errors/bias’s as mine does.
    6. Tits or GTFO

    • I approved this comment only so everyone can see what a moron you are. I’m a cunt? Nice argument. You have evidence to back that up?
      1. Yes, I’m a woman. This probably makes me a ‘cunt’ too. I assume you don’t use this term to insult men.
      2. How am I biased? Again, evidence please.
      3. I’m an atheist. I don’t believe in whoever the hell St. Valentine was anymore than St. Patrick or the tooth fairy or a big Papa Smurf in the sky that made the world.
      4. Valentine’s Day has nothing to do with the government. You may notice you don’t get the day off and the Post Office is open. Oh, but you probably don’t have a job, do you?
      5. Evidence?
      6. Fuck you, you misogynist ignorant idiot. Go back to surfing porn, seeing conspiracy everywhere and being angry that other people are happy.

    • What a total fuckwad.

  10. I’m certain there are people that don’t like Valentine’s day for whatever reason and they’re completely entitled to their opinion.

    Here’s my personal take on it (just me for me)

    It’s at least one day, that no matter how BUSY and CRAZY my day gets I’ll stop, look at my wife, maybe give her a card or something just to say …

    “Hey, thanks for putting up with me….”

    That’s all ’nuff said πŸ™‚

    If you don’t celebrate Valentine’s day? Cheers to yourself and don’t worry about it. I’m certain there’s probably a day important to you I might be interested in either… For whatever reason.

    To each his own…

  11. I personally love the holiday- with someone or not. You have to be jaded to not enjoy pink hearts and shit. I do not enjoy the jewelry ads, but that’s because I’m a hardcore gamer. This year I’m getting a Claptrap figurine from Borderlands, getting my husband whatever he wants. The poster above who is name slinging is obviously single, unhappy, and a man-cunt.

  12. Wow. Not even a paragraph in and the bile in your words threatens to melt my monitor. Way to talk down to a conveniently homogenised, stereotyped group. Strange how you defend the virtues of a holiday about love with such frenzied, uninformed hate.

    I dislike whining as much as the next person, but for God’s sake, get a grip!

    • I just don’t get why people are so divided about this particular holiday? Yes, I am generalizing, but in my many many years on this planet I have noticed trends. Women tend to think of it as a competition, and you lose if you’re single. Men in happy relationships don’t seem to have an issue with the holiday; they can celebrate or not. Single men and those casually dating tend to take the most offense. I think they’re afraid (and understandably) that Valentine’s Day creates a manufactured relationship milestone. If they’re dating a girl and don’t celebrate V-day, is that tantamount to breaking up with her? Does celebrating indicate a level of commitment or intent that they’re not ready for?

      I’m glad I’m not a single-but-dating dude on Valentine’s Day. It’s definitely tricky. But I have been a single woman on many Valentine’s Days and just didn’t take it as a personal failure or begrudge any couples their own celebration.

      Besides, I’ll celebrate anything. If there’s gifts and food and cute decorations, I’m in. Shit, I’ll even celebrate Columbus Day if it involves Italian food.

  13. I had to stew on this rant for a few minutes before responding. First, why are you digging on 7-11 so much?? All they do is provide beautifully delicious slushee drinks! Lol

    I don’t think its fair to elude to comparing B’day to sporting events and, what I can only assume is a reference to the 4th of July. The former are events where people voluntarily participate and are generally not socially mocked if they choose to not participate. But if you’re in a relationship, are a man and choose not to participate or don’t ‘step up,’ you risk being the subject of a blog post such as this. The latter is a nationally recognized holiday (day off and all) recognizing our independence (kinda the opposite of Vday, no?). Not exactly apples to apples.

    Now, I grew up in an era where gender equality and political correctness were shoved down my throat. Your post is quite obviously about men, but what about women’s responsibilities? My contention is that Vday is a shared ‘holiday.’ Its a celebration of OUR love. Why should one of us be more responsible on this day than the other?

    With all that said, my wife and I play very traditional roles in our marriage so I end up doing the whole dinner, card and gift deal. However, when I see someone so entrenched in one side of the story, I almost always go into counterpoint mode (ain’t my wife lucky?).

    If nothing else, you made me think this morning. Enjoy the rest of it!

    • I wish 7-11 would make a Red Bull Slurpee.

      You are correct. There are women who expect expensive gifts as some sort of proof of her worth. Their counterpart is the guy you pointed out who is a total fuckwit most of the year and thinks he can lie and cheat and be douchey all year as long as he comes up with the bling a couple times a year. These two usually end up together.

      People who celebrate Valentines Day should, as you said, share the responsibility. Maybe there are women in happy relationships that complain about the pressure to buy cards and flowers or candy, but I haven’t seen it. And there are probably men who see the ‘holiday’ as a rebuke to singlehood, and spend Feb 14 and the preceding days wallowing in self-pity and asking their friends “what’s wrong with me? Seriously, just tell me.” Just haven’t witnessed it myself.

      I think the problem is that Valentine’s Day puts focus and pressure on the concept of romantic love, and the “You’re Nobody Til Somebody Loves You” fallacy. Thanks, Dean Martin. Women and men deal with this pressure in different ways: Generally women get depressed and men get angry. But both genders seem to be upset about the same thing: feeling like they aren’t living up to an unfair societal standard.

  14. Kerbob97 on said:

    I think my problem is just like all of the over commercialization of holidays.

    Start marketing months in advance, jack the prices through the roof, and gouge everyone severely. $60 for the dozen roses that you can normally get for $9.99?

    Luckily, my wife is genius. She says to celebrate the holiday the day after. Everything is 1/2 off or more. No crazy waits for reservations, crowds, etc. and the stress is off.

    I have 2 daughters, and i would much rather they find a mate *twitch* who treats them well, respects them, and shows them love 365 days a year, than some asshat who “showers” them with VDay presents once a year out of guilt and “duty”

  15. My disliking of Valentine’s Day is situational, when I was single I was okay with it: you know be happy for those happy. But being in the middle of a nasty divorce kind of takes the fun out of the whole thing. Maybe next year but this year I’d like my “‘meh’ pass,” please.

  16. I’m not a huge fan of Valentine’s Day, more because I don’t see the point of having only one day a year where you’re supposed to buy gifts & be nice to your partner.

    That’s just not me, if I’m only doing those things on one day in a year, I’m doing something wrong.

  17. I guess all you people who don’t send stuff to your SO on Valentine’s Day because IT’S JUST ONE DAY OH MY GOSH WHY CAN’T I SHOW MY LOVE EVERY DAY also don’t send your moms cards on Mother’s Day.

    If you show your love every day, one day set aside to do it shouldn’t make you so mad.

  18. vigorousjammer on said:

    I may hate Valentines day, but I usually keep it to myself.

    I’m unhappy that I’m single, but I don’t feel I can do much about it. Not sure if my standards are high, but everybody has different taste, so it’s not like there’s one scale here… a 10 to me, might be a 5 to somebody else.

    That being said, I do enjoy talking to specific types of women, but if I broaden my range and I get into a relationship with somebody I don’t even get along with or somebody I’m not actually interested in, then whats the point?

    About gift buying, that doesn’t bother me much. Like you said, other holidays have it, and nobody complains then.

    But why the hate for men? Not all of us are stingy & shallow. Even those of us who work minimum wage jobs and can barely afford our bills still find ways to buy gifts. They might not be extravagant or grand, but a box of chocolate is only 5 bucks.

    Now, if only I had somebody to give those chocolates to… and that’s why I hate Valentines Day, because I don’t. and yes, I’m Lovelorn, and yes, I’m unhappy. Don’t hate on people because of it.

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